About

ultimo167

Welcome to my blog about men. Strong, silent men. Cheery men. Straight men. Gay men. Men in crisis. Men who are addicted to something. Silly stuff about nothing. Serious stuff about something. I know heaps about men. I am one, for starters. Well, I am a man, but the difference is purely semantic. I love a man. I study men. I have counselled many, many men. I have listened to their stories about growing up, finding love, breaking up, falling apart, reaching out and finding help. Dusting themselves off and starting over. Some of the stuff on this blog will be mindless rubbish. Some will be a bit better than that. Whatever. An emerging space. Strong at times but never silent…

WHO, ME?

• Irish (Clan O’Ciardha).
• Gay, radical humanist.
• A human rights advocate in mental health for 30 years.
• Trauma counsellor, teacher, trainer, and researcher.
• A specialist in working with men who have complex trauma presentations.
• And men who are suicidal, self-harming or otherwise risk-taking.
• Designer and coordinator of groundbreaking community development projects and programs.
• Finishing up my PhD on men’s emotional problems, their help-seeking behaviours, and what happens when they actually seek help from family, friends, and health professionals.
• Cook, writer (and retired from the stage, singer and actor)…

HELP ME:

I just found a dead DOI that was leading readers to nowhere, so if you find anything on this blog that is broken practically if not spiritually, please leave a comment (see below) and it will be fixed pronto…

HELP YOU:

If there is anything that you would like to see featured on this blog, regarding men, masculinity, etc., please get in touch (see ‘leave a reply’ section, way below). Or alternatively, you can email me at…

ultimo167@internode.on.net

HELP US:

I am green Irish through and through, so I guess that arguing the point comes naturally to me. Pointed as my arguments may sometimes be, I seek to cause no offence to any person and I would expect that this blog be used in a similar fashion. While the free exchange of ideas is a wonderful and necessary thing, this is not a space to attack people or call them silly names or be aggressive or threatening. Respect, peace, and love are beautiful qualities that we should all strive to build upon…

WHAT THE PUNTERS SAY:

‘You were not selected for the position because the interview panel (Bernie McGee, Liz Hinton, Brian Hurd) did not feel that you engaged with the interview process or with the panel members on the day of the interview. This was based on your lateness to the interview, lack of concern about being late, and overall responsiveness to the interview process.

Engagement is a fundamental skill needed in this role and the panel felt that you did not meet the minimum requirement expected from applicants. This position also requires someone who has well developed communication skills and someone who can demonstrate an ability to work as a motivated and engaged member of the team and this did not come across in interview…’

-Bernie McGee, Manager, Welfare and Equity Services, Macquarie University, Sydney, Australia

‘This (2011) is not (2011) how to cite (2011) (2011) references. Read a paper! (2011)…’

-Bob-

DISCLAIMER:

All communications, commentary and views offered on this blog are observations of general interest. They are not to be relied upon by readers as advice of a clinical, legal or other nature. The author takes no responsibility or otherwise has no liability in respect of how the information on this blog may be used. Readers are required to seek permission in writing from the author of this blog if the information is intended to be used in any way other than personal use.